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Screening

Another particularly sticky topic as of late...screening.

I don't particularly care that you have 52 P411 okays or 12 ladies on stand-by to provide references. That tells me absolutely nothing other than you enjoy your free time with models. What I do care about is that I choose my friends very carefully and want to ensure a date filled with fun. I cannot be comfortable if I were to just see anybody, and you should be far more concerned with ladies that take those "okays" and references as the gospel. Allow me to explain why...

First, okays and references are totally subjective. What might be okay for one lady isn't anything I'd ever be content with. I've had many a reservation where he was "okayed", only to find myself thinking..."exactly on what PLANET would this be okay?!"... And many ladies give out okays when he's not okay in fear of retaliation/a bad review. Therefore, I take this information with a grain of salt, and only in addition to other factors involved, as a part of a whole process. Okays can also be bought, coerced or forced.

Many times, reference requests are never answered for a slew of various reasons anyway, or they are provided without much thought. Often times the responses I get from other ladies consist of "he's okay". That's it. I often provide details in my reference responses to enable the other lady to have a better time, such as "He was so much fun! He was clean, safe, respectful and very interesting to speak with regarding 19th century American literature. I wouldn't hesitate to see him again!". Maybe she doesn't get into lit, but now she has an ice-breaker if she wants it...

Secondly, I refuse to spend time with sexually based offenders or convicted criminals of a violent offense. Therefore, your REAL, FULL NAME and employment verification is crucial for me to have. Third party sites that charge you a fee and collect this info from you DO NOT SHARE IT WITH ME therefore it does me no good. My site is SSL secured, encrypted, I do not store your information, and no one that would ever somehow end up in my phone would ever know who you are. I don't use this information in any way, shape or form, other than to verify who you say you are. I'm not trying to gather info on who you are to destroy your life. I don't want to steal your identity. My goal is a repeat adventure with a select few. I've worked far too hard to gain the stellar reputation I have to throw it away mishandling your data. You're entitled to discretion, never to anonymity. If you think you are more important than all of the other celebrities, CEO's, politicians or anyone else of stature I choose to see, please, stick to entertainers with much lower standards. And why, oh why, would I accept a reference from someone that doesn't screen as hard as I do and sees anyone with a fistfull of cash?

Lastly, there is no measure to really tell what you're getting into by just taking an okay or another ladies' word...someone may act completely different towards me than he did with her, when we're alone, in a small space and scantily clad. Your biggest fear is I don't look like my photos - mine is that my family is told my body was recovered from a landfill so don't ever think your privacy trumps my safety. If you have any disregard for my protocol then by all means, stay home. 

True story from a couple days ago...a gentleman (and I use that term loosely in his regard) filled in my reservation form AFTER giving me a bit of flack over not just taking his P411 'okays'. I uncover 2 separate blacklist reports back to 2010 for him having herpes. But the herpes reports were linked to his real name, not his P411 ID. Had I just accepted his P411 ID and okays, I would've never uncovered this information. Even more shocking, he's had over a dozen P411 okays in the 5 subsequent years since the herpes reports. At this point, there's NO WAY I would see him, but just out of pure curiosity, I checked with him and three of his recent P411 references and here's what they said:

-The Gentleman: "I didn't know I needed a medical review to see a ‘whore’"...

-P411 Reference 1 & 2 (they saw him together): "It would be hard to say who in this business you got herpes from"...

-P411 Reference 3: "What blacklist? I don't check those. I saw him because he had 14 recent P411 okays"...

And that, my friends, is why I CANNOT take okays and references as the end all, be all, and I'm not convinced you should feel safe with a provider that does so! He clearly made up a fake name on P411 to continue getting what he wanted all the while putting numerous ladies in danger, and therefore all of the people she in turn sees. Gross!

In closing, don't ever attempt to circumvent my screening either, I will find out, and there is something especially creepy about lying to someone to get a date. If you do not like the way I do it, that's perfectly okay, and you should simply move on. I won't bend my safety standards for anyone. Ask anyone that's seen me if they regret trusting me : )

*A side note to all of the P411 gents that feel okays should be the end all, be all: P411 can and will suspend your membership if you refuse to show a lady your ID...*